Sunday, May 26, 2013

Distance can be an obstacle if you allow it.

Distance can be an obstacle if you allow it. 



Many people around the world connect on many levels everyday. What are the keys to maintaining successful relationships when the other person lives many miles away?

Firstly, it does not really matter as to the type of relationship as the keys to ensuring success remain the same.

The most important aspect is trust. Trust needs to be implicit. Trust must not waiver. Trust must be solid and firm and be reciprocated by both people. Trust goes hand in hand with honesty…without honesty there is no trust. Without trust the door opens for suspicion, paranoia, jealousy and misinterpretation of actions and words. Without question these will destroy any level of relationship, near or far.

Maintaining regular communication ensures both people feel a connectedness with each other. To hear their voice, see their face regularly provides the opportunity for closeness, even if it is not physically possible to hold, touch or hug the other person.

With the popularity of platforms such as Skype, technology has evolved to permit video conferencing and international calling for free or for nominal costs. Social platforms such as Facebook and Google + provide another medium for communication on a day to day basis when calling or video conferencing is not feasible. Continuing open lines of communication maintains open, honest and strengthens bonds between each person.


It’s not easy by any means to maintain closeness when one person lives so far away, but in today’s world we have the tools to enhance how we connect and the level we connect on. They do not replace being with the person you love, they do not replace the person’s presence in your everyday life nor does it provide the physical contact that, we as humans, crave. However, it is possible to maintain a strong and successful relationship when miles of separation exist and much times passes between meetings.

© 2013 J Picken

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