“Gifting To Oneself”

                                                                            

The general consensus suggests that the art of giving to ones self is, in essence, selfish behavior. 
The constraints of societal conditioning would have us believe that we would 
not only be selfish, but also greedy, thoughtless and self centered. 
So tell me… if one spends all their time giving to others in some, way shape or form, do they not, at some time, deserve something?

The necessity or need to please others, to give to others, to self sacrifice is
endorsed. If this is endorsed for others, then why can we not endorse it for our own
selves? Interesting is it not… give something to yourself, whether small or large,
and start feeling guilty. Hey those well programmed thought patterns leap up and
start blabbing about the need of others being so much higher then your own.
At this stage we begin believing others are more deserving, needier then ourselves.
How have we allowed ourselves to be manipulated to such a degree that we have
forgotten the importance of wholeness of our own being, to be holistically complete
is quite interesting at best. If we are not complete within ourselves how can we
effectively give, help and support others? How can we give something that we do
not have to give?

In order to provide the necessary assistance to others we need to assist ourselves
and learn to give to ourselves and accept this. It is imperative if we wish to give to
others in any capacity. We need to break free of the illusion of selfishness,
greediness thoughtlessness and self centeredness
and do what we need to do to keep ourselves whole and functioning to the optimum ability possible.

So next time your inner self screams for a moments peace and needs to get away,
do not permit that martyrdom mentality, that we have all been so well conditioned
by... to overcome our own natural need for inner peace. In fact, view it from this
perspective… a brief respite now will maintain and assist the wholeness I need to
continue to give what I need to give to others. Giving to others means you also have
the ability to give to yourself.

by: Jodie Picken CoAuthor
(all rights reserved)
From “The Reverse NeuroLinguistic

Programming Internet Series” ©2008